Petition 1 of 3 denied

Update (questions answered):

• Does this change your plans for the cases in WI?
  • No. I’m still moving forward with those. The Illinois statute is heavily biased toward physical abuse (as are most jurisdictions). The statute in Wisconsin includes language for (Adult) Individuals At Risk (IAR) (AAR) that covers mental/psychological abuse and financial exploitation. I don’t expect to have an easy time of it and the emotional toll is significant so I’d like to move forward as quickly as possible to get past the feels either way.
• Do you have any other jurisdictions you can file in/under?
  • I do have other residences in other jurisdictions. I could file there but I’m trying to stay focused on Illinois and Wisconsin because those are the places where I most need the protection and getting one out of say Michigan or Kentucky may have knock on effects that muddy the waters. I’ll take the L here and move forward the best way I know how.
• Do you think M is celebrating your defeat?
  • I try to think of M as little as possible. OCD makes it impossible for me to completely forget her or even get a respite of a few days without intrusive thoughts about the abuse. I don’t know and I don’t care.
• Does this convince you that the BPD Mafia was right about you needing to bury the hatchet with her and try to hear her out?
  • Hell the fuck no! As far as I know she’s still never taken accountability for her bullshit and as far as I know has no intentions of doing so.
• Aren’t you worried that she will try to preemptively file against you?
  • No. Like in war, I hope for the best but expect the worst.
• Aren’t you worried that you’re escalating things that could be resolved with civility?
  • Civility? LOL. You clearly haven’t seen the text messages between M and myself after she told me that I was safe with her. No. There is no chance that civility will bring resolution. Also, I’m not escalating anything. She kicked me out of my/our home for no reason. That’s just about as high as the bar can go. I’m simply responding in kind in order to protect myself and recover damages. That’s it
• Do you fear for your personal safety?
  • That’s a tricky question to answer. In general I don’t fear physical confrontation. I avoid it because I don’t want to have to hurt someone. Being hyper empathic (as many autistics are) it hurts me to hurt others even if they asked for it. I don’t like the feeling and I generally do as much as is reasonably possible to avoid it but the second someone puts their hands on me, I’ll do what I can to terminate the threat, period. That’s not being in “fear” it’s being practical.
  • Emotionally, yes. How would you feel if someone told you to trust them and then used all of your past trauma and insecurities against you in an unrelenting onslaught that you didn’t even know was starting because they had played the victim and asked you to keep giving more and more? Yes I fear for my emotional safety.